"self-pity" in the Big Book

No words can tell of the loneliness and despair I found in that bitter morass of self-pity.

Whatever our protestations, are not most of us concerned with ourselves, our resentments, or our self-pity?

Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate.

That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.

Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives.

running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day “Thy will be done.’’ We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions.

We have had long rendezvous with hurt pride, frustration, self-pity, misunderstanding and fear.

If, on the other hand, they took nothing, their self-pity made them killjoys.

We wives found that, like everybody else, we were afflicted with pride, self-pity, vanity and all the things which go to make up the self-centered person; and we were not above selfishness or dishonesty.

These family talks will be constructive if they can be carried on without heated argument, self-pity, self-justification or resentful criticism.