"usually" in the Big Book

Strangely enough, wives, parents and intimate friends usually find us even more unapproachable than do the psychiatrist and the doctor.

And the truth, strange to say, is usually that he has no more idea why he took that first drink than you have.

All of us felt at times that we were regaining control, but such intervals—usually brief—were inevitably followed by still less control, which led in time to pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization.

I reasoned I was not so far advanced as most of you fellows, that I had been usually successful in licking my other personal problems, and that I would therefore be successful where you men failed.

Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves.

What usually happens?

They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn’t think so.

A business which takes no regular inventory usually goes broke.

We were usually as definite as this example: I’m resentful at: Mr. Brown Mrs. Jones My employer My wife The Cause Affects my: His attention to my Sex relations. wife.

In actual practice, we usually find a solitary self-appraisal insufficient.

Telling them what we are trying to do, we make no bones about our drinking; they usually know it anyway, whether we think so or not.

Usually, however, other people are involved.

Whatever the situation, we usually have to do something about it.

We usually conclude the period of meditation with a prayer that we be shown all through the day what our next step is to be, that we be given whatever we need to take care of such problems.

If there is any indication that he wants to stop, have a good talk with the person most interested in him— usually his wife.

Usually the family should not try to tell your story.

If the alcoholic tries to shield himself he may succeed for a time, but he usually winds up with a bigger explosion than ever.

Usually we did not leave.

Of course, there is such a thing as incompatibility, but in nearly every instance the alcoholic only seems to be unloving and inconsiderate; it is usually because he is warped and sickened that he says and does these appalling things.

The problem with which you struggle usually falls within one of four categories: One: Your husband may be only a heavy drinker.

If this kind of approach does not catch your husband’s interest, it may be best to drop the subject, but after a friendly talk your husband will usually revive the topic himself.

When sober, father usually obeyed.

Is he not usually brilliant, fastthinking, imaginative and likeable?

This may seem severe, but it is usually the best course.